Our fifth week was VERY interesting. It was about LOVE!
We first discussed about what love is and then the different issues regarding a relationship with the opposite sex. To make the discussion more clear, the room was divided into two: the boys and the girls.
Love covers three characteristics: Intimacy, Passion, Commitment. Majority of the different kinds love includes, at the most, two characteristics. I thought of what kind of love could possibly include the three characteristics. At first, I thought there was none. But then I realized that the realtionship between an individual and God could possibly have that kind of love.
Regarding a relationship with the opposite sex, there are a few things I was able to reflect on. First was the issue regarding PDA or Public Display of Affection. Well, from the very start, I was very, very against it.Not for the reason na inggit lang ako. I'm not that shallow. But I disagree with it because, since they are in public, they are NOT supposed to be doing things that are supposed to be done in private! I remember one time when I was riding the LRT on my way home. There was this couple who had their arms around each other. If that was only what they were doing, it would seem alright. But the the guy would not stop kissing the girl, either on the cheeks or the lips. In my mind I was thinking, Hindi ba nila naiisip na ang daming tao sa paligid nila! Mahiya naman sila! But there are some cases where some forms of PDA is acceptable. Such as holding hands or when the guy places his arms around the girl. For the boys' opinion, PDA was okay as long as they are aware of their limitation.I guess I can agree, but I don't think all boys would have the same meaning of what their limitaion is.
I also reflected on the well-known issue regarding the relationship with the oppposite sex: Sex before marriage. I know a guy who said that in a relationship, it is somehow necessary to that they should do IT before marriage. It doesn't matter how long it would take, as long as they do it. The funny thing is, this belief of his got him to marry his girlfriend at the wrong time. All of the girls in the block said no to sex before marriage. We had different reasons. But the reason I had was that a guy should love his girlfriend, with or without having sex before marriage. But of course, the boys on our block had a different view on this. They know that if the girl doesn't want to do it, they shouldn't force them to. But when they are already in the "heat of the moment", there's no stopping them. haha! But there was also a time when I was thinking that Sex before marriage is okay, as long as you end up with the person you sleep with. But then, what if you don't? There's no way one could get their virginity back. That's why I believe that true love waits.
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