PERSEF 2 Third Entry: Significant Others

INTERPERSONAL NEEDS

One of my significant relationships is with my mom. My relationship with her is very "Personal" when it comes to affection . We always express what we feel with each other. Our inclusion is between being "Undersocial" and "Oversocial". This is because though I may be very close with my mom, still there are times where I'd rather be alone or not be around her. When it comes to control, mmy mom is an "Autocrat". Of course, this is because she is my mom. But even though my mom is an "Autocrat", she tries to understand my situation, so that even though she asks me to do something or follow her, I will not take it too negative as if I am only forced to do whatever she says.


COST-REWARD THEORY

I can relate the cost-reward theory with my relationship with my friends. Examples of COST with this relationship is the time I spend with them and the help that I give to them. Examples of REWARD is their loyalty to me and having the knowledge that they care for me and that I have importance to them. So far, I am having a very satisfactory relationship with my friends.


BALANCE THEORY

This theory I can relate with any relationship I have. In any situation, I try my best to suit my behavior. For example, when I have a friend who is currently feeling hopeless, I do not try to make things worse and say discouraging words. Instead, I would try to comfort her, and as much as possible, I try to give her advice on what she's going through. Though, still there are times where I have a difficult time applying balance with my significant relationships. For example, when I have done something wrong against a person, it is very hard for me to apologize and accept that I was the one who has done wrong. I have a difficult time when it comes to my pride. I guess it's one thing that I should work on.